Hey, When was the last time you asked this question to yourself?
I am talking to you,don't try to ignore the question,And If you are trying to ignore the question the answer seems so obvious!
Well,Lets start talking about happiness in life,So how do we define it,Lets say for some it means success,money,love,freedom,fame,desires etc etc. But what exactly it is?
Ok I wont get into boring theories,which i guess we all know, happiness lies in pursuit of happiness,its the journey not the destination,if you are happy from within,you are happy anyways....blah blah..... lots to pen down... But we will talk here about why I am not happy,or perhaps why we all are not happy.
Let me first start with what i feel, I feel we are not doing what we want truly,thats why we are not happy, we don't want to go to work, but still we have to so we become unhappy, we don't want to get up in the morning but we have to,so we crib. Basically if we try to make ourself mechanical and indulge in a disciplined life.. we end up becoming somewhat gloomy..!!
So what do we do? If we want to survive and attain materialistic goals,we need to do something, then the question comes,why do we want materialistic goals,again to make ourselves happy, haha...It looks like a vicious circle to me.
So say we get out of this vicious circle,leave everything and go to some place like Himalayas and just start living life like ancient sages, but will it make us happy? First of all I don't think we have that much courage to risk our life and leave everything,and secondly it might not give us the real happiness which we are searching for.... hmmm....
So then i find myself in a situation that most of us are, that we are being slaves of something or the other and that is what is causing us feel like "loosing ourselves".
So after much discussion,let me jot down few causes of we being "slaves":
1. Want to become rich,born in middle class family
2. Want to attain higher position in life,though an average man.
3. etc etc etc,,,, millions of things...
keep counting.... So Can we say that being ambitious makes us unhappy,may be one of the reasons,
Then it should be that a person, who has everything,should be happiest? Perhaps no!
So we have got our conclusion,that the chase for dreams and materialistic goals is making us unhappy and then people who have it all are also unhappy!! Then why worry chasing and become sad....
I guess i have got a point here.... Lets try and be content in what we have and stop thinking about "Real happiness", the best possible answer would be to feel we are actually really happy and stick to the fact that what is there is best for us...
And one day we will feel happy,but there is a catch "compromise is different than being content"
If you have a longing desire and you curb yourself,you will never be happy......
Now lets try to sum up and make a recipe of being happy
1.Be happy what you have
2.But don't curb your inner calls,Go For it! then don't think of failure!
3.Differentiate between what is lazy and what is you don't actually want.
If you can work on these few tips,i guess you will be happy...(I am just guessing :P)
Still if you cant be happy.. write another blog :P
cheers,
Anirudh
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